We’ve all taught our children to lie, inadvertently. What are the implications of this for them as they grow up? What can we learn from the how society has changed, as we look forward at how it will change? How will the degree of morality we consciously and unconsciously teach our children set them up for sucess in the future?
What it’s like to be a dad
Thoughts on how fatherhood changes men and how men are changing fatherhood.
What the All Blacks and the Japanese football team teach us about raising children
Lessons on responsibility from moments that surprised the world, even though they shouldn’t have when you think about it.
The Parental Guilt of Working Dads
The guilt we feel as working dads comes from the stories we and others tell ourselves. How we can learn to listen to it when it’s helpful and learn recognise it when it’s unhealthy.
I’ve stopped my kids from saying sorry. It wasn’t the plan.
Saying sorry is something I’ve made a conscious effort to do more of with my kids, because it helps repair the connection with them when something has happened to break it, like me nagging or getting cross at them for something they’ve done. It also role models values that are important to me, humility, self-awareness, taking responsibility and kindness.
So when my kids say sorry, I feel good. I feel they are growing, that I’m being a good dad. But recently my kids told my wife that they don’t see the point in apologising to me, because I don’t listen. This was hard for me to hear, so I asked them about it.
The way we work makes us impatient parents, but we can change it
Recently I ran a workshop with a high profile financial asset management firm. The dads in the room were all super smart. Hugely driven, disciplined and results focused. A great strength in the workplace. A real issue in the home.
Should you ask about what they want to be, or what they want to do?
Our children will have to continually learn and change as they get older. No job for life, more likely multiple careers. How do you frame work in a healthy way for them when they are young?